Positive and supportive relationships are one of the best things in life. But relationships can be tricky because each individual is unique. 

 

A big part of any relationship and tension amongst people comes back to values. Maybe someone behaves in a way that seems so wrong to you because you would never behave that way, because you have different values. 

 

Whenever a relationship is becoming tense, it can be helpful to step back and look at the role of values in this. 

 

Are you clashing because you value one thing and the other person values something else? Is one of your top values not being met or respected? These questions can help you better understand each other's perspective. 

 

By asking "what values of mine are not being met" and asking "What values are driving the other person" you can then have a conversation about values and how everyone's values can be understood and respected.

 

 If you want to go a step further and inject some positivity into relationships, try spotting the strengths in someone and tell them what you think is great about how they use that sterngth